Module 4: How a Disaster Can Impact My Relationship
Over the years, in working with couples recovering from disaster, we have seen that even the strongest relationships experience significant strain. This can be difficult to acknowledge, and many couples avoid naming it because it feels frightening or overwhelming. But this strain is not a sign that something is wrong with your relationship, it is a normal response to extraordinary stress. The impact of a disaster isn’t only emotional. It affects the body, finances, routines, roles, and sense of safety, and it often unfolds over weeks or months rather than all at once.
A lot of couples struggle not because something is wrong with their relationship, but because they’re coping in different ways. One partner might want to talk everything through or take action right away, while the other feels overwhelmed and needs more time or space. Both reactions are normal after trauma, but when they’re misunderstood, it can leave couples feeling disconnected or alone.
Different coping styles are normal
It’s also helpful to know that intimacy can look different during this challenging time. Again, this is completely normal.
With patience, understanding, and support, many couples find their connection slowly returns—and in some cases, deepens. Recovery is not about rushing back to how things were, but about finding a new rhythm together that feels safe and supportive.
You don’t have to navigate this alone.