Module 2: Renters - Managing the Emotional Side of Moving
The ups and downs of finding a new home
Many renters are surprised by how intense finding new housing feels after a disaster. Even on a good day, looking for an apartment is a big decision that can feel overwhelming. After a disaster, you’re often grieving what you lost, feeling unsafe, and completely exhausted—while being asked to start over far too quickly.
All of this keeps your nervous system on high alert. Something as simple as signing a new lease can suddenly bring up fear, anger, or sadness. That doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong—it means you’re still in survival mode. This isn’t just a physical move; it’s an emotional transition, and it makes sense that it feels heavy. Here is some guidance in helping you navigate finding new housing.
Remember, this is not a typical move: You didn’t decide to move right now. You have been forced into this step by being displaced, and you are now rushed, maybe limited by finances or insurance. You are doing something really hard right under unfair circumstances, and you should feel overwhelmed.
Separate logistics from emotions when you can A rental application, a rejection, or a tough decision can suddenly bring up grief, fear, or anger. When that happens, take a pause and remind yourself, “This makes sense. I’m reacting to everything I’ve lost—not just this piece of paperwork
Set small, doable goals Instead of telling yourself, “I have to find a place right now,” pause and take a breath. This is a lot to carry, and you don’t have to do it all at once. Try gently refocusing on just the next small step—making one call, touring one place, or submitting one application. Moving in small pieces can help your body and mind feel a little safer and less overwhelmed
Talk it out with the right people. Find a friend, family member, or therapist who can listen without trying to fix or solve anything. Being able to vent and be heard helps release frustration and makes the situation feel less heavy.
Be Kind to Yourself. There is no “right” way to rebuild physically and emotionally. This process is about rebuilding stability, safety, and yourself.
